WHAT IS GRIEF?<\/h1>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>The first step towards better interaction with a grieving person is a better understanding of grief. In this context, a grieving person refers to someone who has lost a loved one in a shocking or devastating manner. Suicide, homicide, or loss of a child or spouse at a young age are cases where the bereaved person is likely to need a lot of support in their grief. Interacting with a person who has lost a loved one in this manner may be difficult for others: the enormity of their grief may make you feel helpless. For practical information on how a professional should interact a grieving person, see Interacting with the bereaved<\/a>.
\n<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/i><\/div>Grief is more than an emotion<\/h2><\/a><\/div><\/div>\nGrief is not a disorder \u2013 it\u2019s a normal reaction to loss. What should a professional know about grief?<\/p>\n<\/div>
<\/div>Read more<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/i><\/div>Myths about grief<\/h2><\/a><\/div><\/div>\nDifferent cultures and professional practices are affected by conceptions of grief that conflict with current research and the personal experience of the bereaved.<\/p>\n<\/div>
<\/div>Read more<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/i><\/div>Common reactions to a devastating loss<\/h2><\/a><\/div><\/div>\nGrief is very personal, but the experiences of those who have lost a loved one have many similarities. Bereaved people may feel concerned about their emotions, and it may be helpful for them to know that the way they\u2019re reacting is completely normal, considering the situation.<\/p>\n<\/div>
<\/div>Read more<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/i><\/div>Grief is not an illness<\/h2><\/a><\/div><\/div>\nGrief is not an illness that can be treated. However, when a bereaved person describes their symptoms, they must be taken seriously. A sudden loss may lead to physical and mental illnesses that require the help of a medical professional.<\/p>\n<\/div>
<\/div>Read more<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/i><\/i><\/span>Sources<\/span><\/a><\/h4><\/div>\nSources on the Internet:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Hoitoty\u00f6n tutkimuss\u00e4\u00e4ti\u00f6 (2018). \u00c4killisesti kuolleen henkil\u00f6n l\u00e4heisten tukeminen. Hoitoty\u00f6n suositus<\/em> (online). Hoitoty\u00f6n tutkimuss\u00e4\u00e4ti\u00f6n asettama ty\u00f6ryhm\u00e4. Helsinki: Hoitoty\u00f6n tutkimuss\u00e4\u00e4ti\u00f6, 2018 (viitattu 4.9.2018). Saatavilla: www.hotus.fi<\/a>.<\/li>\n
- Poijula, S. (2018). Suru<\/em>. Soili Poijulan kotisivut (viitattu 9.11.2018). Saatavilla:\u00a0www.soilipoijula.fi\/tietosivut\/suru\/\u00a0<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Literature:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Dyregrov K., Dyregrov A. (2008).\u00a0Effective Grief and Bereavement Support. The Role of Family, Friends, Colleagues, Schools and Support Professionals. <\/em>Lontoo: JKP.\u00a0<\/em><\/li>\n
- Hedrenius S., Johansson S. (2016). Kriisituki. Ensiapua onnettomuuksien, katastrofien ja j\u00e4rkytt\u00e4vien tapahtumien k\u00e4sittelyyn.<\/em> Tallinna: Tieotsanoma. Suom. Strellman U.\u00a0 Original in swedish Krisst\u00f6d vid vid olyckor, katastrofer ock sv\u00e5ra h\u00e4ndelser: att st\u00e4rka m\u00e4nniskors motst\u00e5ndskraft <\/em>(2013).<\/em><\/li>\n
- Itkonen J. (2018). Kun vauvaonni vaihtuu kuoleman suruun – Narratiivinen tutkimus kohtukuolemasta, lapsen kuoleman aiheuttamasta surusta ja selviytymisprosessista sek\u00e4 kirkon tuesta. <\/em>Helsinki: Helsingin yliopisto.<\/li>\n
- Poijula s. (2018). Resilienssi. Muutosten kohtaamisen taito.<\/em> Helsinki: Kirjapaja.<\/li>\n
- Pulkkinen M. (2017). Surun syliss\u00e4. Suomalaisten kokemuksia menetyksest\u00e4.<\/em> Helsinki: S&S.<\/li>\n
- Walter T. (2016). What is complicated grief? A social constructionist answer.\u00a0Omega: The Journal of Death and Dying<\/em>\u00a0vol. 52, no. 1. 71\u201379.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Other sources:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Poijula, S. (2018). Monikasvoinen suru. <\/em>Lahden kes\u00e4yliopiston 14.11.2018 j\u00e4rjest\u00e4m\u00e4 koulutus ja koulutusmateriaalit.<\/li>\n
- Poijula, S. (2009). Traumaattinen suru \u2013 osataanko surevaa auttaa?<\/em>. P\u00e4\u00e4luento, Surukonferenssi 2009.<\/li>\n
- Pulkkinen, M. (2018). Koulutusmateriaalit ja keskustelut.<\/li>\n
- Haastattelut ja keskustelut suruj\u00e4rjest\u00f6jen kokemusasiantuntijoiden kanssa (2018). Haastattelijana toimi Surevan kohtaaminen -hankkeen viestint\u00e4vastaava Maiju Laitanen.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>
Grief following a sudden death of a loved one<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>Grief is more than sadness<\/span><\/strong>. The grief resulting from the loss of a loved one comes with a wide spectrum of emotions: it\u2019s common to miss the person, to feel anger, bitterness, fury, guilt, anxiety, despair, loneliness, depression, hopelessness, isolation, agony, pain, helplessness, exhaustion, fear, terror, unsafety and shame. The loss may also come with emotions that are regarded as positive, such as relief and joy. Besides emotions, the loss affects a person\u2019s behaviour and attitudes \u2013 and manifests itself as physical reactions in your body.<\/p>\nLife changes permanently with loss<\/span><\/strong>.\u00a0<\/span>Grief is more than a disturbance to get over with \u2013 it\u2019s a normal reaction to a heavy loss. The goal of a grieving person is not to \u2018let go\u2019 of their dead loved one, it\u2019s to adapt to a life without their loved one. Time will bring new things into your life without breaking up your relationship with the deceased.<\/p>\nThe most acute pain will ease with time, but you will never have to stop missing your loved one<\/strong><\/span>. Grief can bring about positive changes: the bereaved person may feel that their values have changed for the better. They may value life and people dearest to them more. On the other hand, if you lose your loved one to violence, you may feel permanently disappointed with humanity and life.<\/p>\nNot all bereaved people need medical assistance, but they all need compassionate interaction that treats their loss respectfully<\/span><\/strong>. Even the most devastating of losses does not always lead to clinical disorders.<\/p>\nThe greatest risk factor in grief is not receiving help and support<\/span><\/strong>. Research indicates that support by a professional has a major impact on the wellbeing of the grieving person, both in the short and long term.<\/span><\/p>\nIt is the professional\u2019s job to encourage the social network of the grieving person to help them. The grieving person should also be encouraged to seek peer support and other professional help if needed. For many, the support of their loved ones and peers is most important.<\/p>\n<\/div>
<\/div><\/div><\/div>\n“I spent half my life with my wife, and it was clear to me that the past was just as important as the future. Living with grief and loss is not a project that you get over in a year or five, or in any time. Loss has become a part of me, and I\u2019m getting better at living with it. It doesn\u2019t stop you from keeping on living or accepting new things into your life.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/span><\/blockquote>Timo<\/strong>, <\/span>expert by experience, Young Widows of Finland Association<\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>![\"Surevan](\"https:\/\/www.surevankohtaaminen.fi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/kohtaa-sureva-203x300.png\" "\\"kohtaa")
<\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div>Myths about grief<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\u201cAll the talk about phases creates unrealistic expectations and threats. If somebody is doing well, others may say, \u2018just wait, the crash is right around the corner.\u2019 The person will start fearing it and waiting for it, even though not everybody goes through a crash.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/span><\/blockquote>
The first step towards better interaction with a grieving person is a better understanding of grief. In this context, a grieving person refers to someone who has lost a loved one in a shocking or devastating manner. Suicide, homicide, or loss of a child or spouse at a young age are cases where the bereaved person is likely to need a lot of support in their grief. Interacting with a person who has lost a loved one in this manner may be difficult for others: the enormity of their grief may make you feel helpless. For practical information on how a professional should interact a grieving person, see Interacting with the bereaved<\/a>. Grief is not a disorder \u2013 it\u2019s a normal reaction to loss. What should a professional know about grief?<\/p>\n<\/div> Different cultures and professional practices are affected by conceptions of grief that conflict with current research and the personal experience of the bereaved.<\/p>\n<\/div> Grief is very personal, but the experiences of those who have lost a loved one have many similarities. Bereaved people may feel concerned about their emotions, and it may be helpful for them to know that the way they\u2019re reacting is completely normal, considering the situation.<\/p>\n<\/div> Grief is not an illness that can be treated. However, when a bereaved person describes their symptoms, they must be taken seriously. A sudden loss may lead to physical and mental illnesses that require the help of a medical professional.<\/p>\n<\/div> Sources on the Internet:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Literature:<\/strong><\/p>\n Other sources:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Grief is more than sadness<\/span><\/strong>. The grief resulting from the loss of a loved one comes with a wide spectrum of emotions: it\u2019s common to miss the person, to feel anger, bitterness, fury, guilt, anxiety, despair, loneliness, depression, hopelessness, isolation, agony, pain, helplessness, exhaustion, fear, terror, unsafety and shame. The loss may also come with emotions that are regarded as positive, such as relief and joy. Besides emotions, the loss affects a person\u2019s behaviour and attitudes \u2013 and manifests itself as physical reactions in your body.<\/p>\n Life changes permanently with loss<\/span><\/strong>.\u00a0<\/span>Grief is more than a disturbance to get over with \u2013 it\u2019s a normal reaction to a heavy loss. The goal of a grieving person is not to \u2018let go\u2019 of their dead loved one, it\u2019s to adapt to a life without their loved one. Time will bring new things into your life without breaking up your relationship with the deceased.<\/p>\n The most acute pain will ease with time, but you will never have to stop missing your loved one<\/strong><\/span>. Grief can bring about positive changes: the bereaved person may feel that their values have changed for the better. They may value life and people dearest to them more. On the other hand, if you lose your loved one to violence, you may feel permanently disappointed with humanity and life.<\/p>\n Not all bereaved people need medical assistance, but they all need compassionate interaction that treats their loss respectfully<\/span><\/strong>. Even the most devastating of losses does not always lead to clinical disorders.<\/p>\n The greatest risk factor in grief is not receiving help and support<\/span><\/strong>. Research indicates that support by a professional has a major impact on the wellbeing of the grieving person, both in the short and long term.<\/span><\/p>\n It is the professional\u2019s job to encourage the social network of the grieving person to help them. The grieving person should also be encouraged to seek peer support and other professional help if needed. For many, the support of their loved ones and peers is most important.<\/p>\n<\/div> “I spent half my life with my wife, and it was clear to me that the past was just as important as the future. Living with grief and loss is not a project that you get over in a year or five, or in any time. Loss has become a part of me, and I\u2019m getting better at living with it. It doesn\u2019t stop you from keeping on living or accepting new things into your life.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/span><\/blockquote> \u201cAll the talk about phases creates unrealistic expectations and threats. If somebody is doing well, others may say, \u2018just wait, the crash is right around the corner.\u2019 The person will start fearing it and waiting for it, even though not everybody goes through a crash.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/span><\/blockquote>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>Grief is more than an emotion<\/h2><\/a><\/div>
Myths about grief<\/h2><\/a><\/div>
Common reactions to a devastating loss<\/h2><\/a><\/div>
Grief is not an illness<\/h2><\/a><\/div>
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Grief following a sudden death of a loved one<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/div>
<\/span><\/div><\/div>Myths about grief<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/div>